I've been wanting to write about aging for a while now but wasn't ready to wrap my mind around everything I wanted to say, cause I have a lot to say on this one.
The inspiration for my rapid thought production on this one is that I recently came across a video where a man was rating beautiful aging women (I think they're beautiful - he called them "spoiled milk") in Hollywood on his top list of women that age like "spoiled milk."😲
In fact, he says that "men age like fine wine and women age like spoiled milk," 😲 and this was coming from a man that, dude, seriously needs to take a long look in the mirror. Have you looked lately?🧐😂I never knew this was a "thing" till I got closer to 40. It seems like it just popped up, but, no, I think it's always been a thing in Hollywood anyway.
In the real world, in my world, the way I was raised is you're born and then you begin to age. Everyone ages.😃It's not something that only happens to a select few... However, the way we age depends on: genetics, health, maybe even wealth but really doesn't have to be the case, skincare, and fitness.
I also believe stress reduction and spirituality can make you live longer too, along with the ability to have a good laugh daily. Laughing keeps us young. Let's dive into this one a bit further... The women he examined, who shall remain nameless because I'm not down with age shaming, are to me all beautiful women.
Some of them are women that have had work done in the past and I personally have noticed that women that have had things like face lifts, botox, etc. age the worse. Still beautiful but I do feel that if you just take care of your skin, exercise, take care of your health, you age better.
There's so many beautiful women in Hollywood over the age of 40 that just take care of themselves without "procedures" and they're ageing "like fine wine." I think this can go both ways. It's not a male female thing. I've seen men that age like s**t and vice versa. It's all in how we take care of ourselves.
If you don't take care of yourself and/or have bad genetics you won't age so well. Is it bad to age? Come on. Aging is a part of life! We all age. As much as we'd like to look like we're in our 20s till we're 90, 😂, that's just not happening. We can prolong it as long as we're able to and that's about it.
What we can do is "age gracefully," so as we age, we age in the best way possible - naturally and beautifully. Embracing the changes that take place in our body and taking care of ourselves the best we can, giving it our all. As a kid I was the little girl that loved old people. I've always had a soft spot for the elderly or disabled. I've never viewed my elders as anything but my elders.
I never looked at anyone over 40 and thought, ew, they're aging like s**t. I mean, what is wrong with people? Aging is part of life! The reaper is coming for us all...that's why we age. From dust to dust...we begin to age from the moment we're born. For me, my aging process has been an interesting one and here's what I've noticed with myself... I've been one of the lucky ones.
When I was in my 20s people would tell me I still looked like I was in my teens. Literally in my late 20s, early 30s, people said I still looked like, to quote, "you look like you're 16 yourself." Cause I had teenagers - teen mom story to come... In my 20s I was obsessed with skincare and since I was 19 I've always honestly just washed with oatmeal soap which is really good for the skin.
Later I added in African black soap, also good for skin, along with other things that I love. I went to a spa and had two light peels, but that's it. The rest was just me taking care of my skin. Oh, and, duh, how can I forget things like dead sea mud clay masks, the Aztec Secret Indian Healing Clay, and microdermabrasion products. Homemade masks are my absolute favorite though.
So fast forward...I was aging great till I was 38. I used to smoke but only had 1-2 a day. That's how I ended my sorry day was to sit on my porch at night and have one or two cigarettes before bed, eww. Been smoke free for over a year now. But smoking adds to the aging process, I digress...
Anyhow, I still got "carded" buying cigarettes till I was 38. Then I started having health problems, a s**t ton of stress between age 35 and 38 began to add up as well - stress ages, and wasn't taking care of my skin. I was in full on mom mode and honestly, didn't give a f**k.
I just wanted to work, pay my bills, and have time for my kids if there was any time leftover after working. Me, went out the window. Carmen who? Once my health problems began, I started taking better care of myself again and now I'm throwing the damage that was done (aging began to accelerate) backwards and this has always been easy for me, although this time was the hardest I must add.
Skincare, facial massage, the right skincare products, serums, astringent, masks, and I'm dabbling with derma rolling. I think I'd like to maybe leave that one to the professionals though. That one makes me nervous. I'm afraid I'll do it wrong. And it's also on my list to treat myself this year to some facials, etc.
Working on getting fit again because when I'm at my best weight and my skin is in check, I look my best. I've embraced my aging hair. Hair ages too. It's more thirsty now than ever and the texture has changed. I have my father's Puerto Rican hair, so this is a work in progress and I'm proud of how far my hair has come. Embracing my curls more and straightening less.
Embracing the little white hairs I'm getting cause once this starts happening you have to make the decision - dye or leave natural. I've personally never been one to dye my hair, just on occasion. I had a pretty natural brown with auburn highlights. So I tried dying my hair, not because I felt I had to, but because I wanted to and what I found for me is that dying my hair made me look older.
Maybe if I had it professionally done I'd feel different, I don't know. What I do know is I think gray hair is sexy. I also thought this in my 20s. I think a young face with some salt and pepper hair or graying hair is hot. I've got that Elvira thing going on, 😂. I don't mind it and I embrace it. I like my aging self.
So with all of that said...I wanted to share MY top 11 list of beautiful aging women in no particular order:
That's all for now...I think I've said enough. I mean, if you're gonna come at people for aging and shame women you better be looking like a young Brad Pitt. Look in the mirror before judging others...lacks class to age shame anyone. Just sayin...And I apologize for the censored profanities (I censored myself) but this s**t had me tight...😂✌️
With Love,
Carmen
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